Mind Your Words

Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body – Proverbs 16:24 As one whose job requires navigating the difficulties of life with others, including death, I’ve heard some of the most hurtful things said to the grieving with good intentions. Things like “everything happens for a reason!” “God just […]

Grief and the Pandemic

When a person experiences a distressing event or series of events, such as abuse, a bad accident, rape or other sexual violence, combat, or a natural disaster, they may have an emotional response called trauma. Immediate reactions after a traumatic event include shock and denial, while more long-term reactions may include mood swings, relationship challenges, flashbacks, and physical […]

Wounds of the Heart

Recently I participated in a class “Healing the Wounds of Trauma” which focused on helping people in the local church respond appropriately to people who are hurting in a way that is helpful as opposed to making them feel unfaithful. We talked about “a wound of the heart.” Some life experiences are painful and can […]

Jesus Wept – John 11:35

For Christians, Jesus Christ is the model for allowing ourselves to grieve the loss of a loved one. No matter your religious convictions or upbringing, it is okay to mourn and weep. Please don’t think it is more spiritual to hold in your tears than to allow them to flow. In the Biblical story alluded […]

Suicide Hotline 988

We like to say that suicide rates increase during the holiday or vacation seasons, however, statistics do not bear that out. During seasons of family gatherings, the expectation is that everyone would be festive.  The truth is that anyone can become sad and exhibit suicidal ideation. If you encounter someone who is sad and wants […]